![]() 30 years! That's the number of years my husband and I have been together. I remember turning 30 years of age, and thinking that was a long time. My, how perspective changes. With regard to relationships, thirty years does seem like a long time anymore. People ask me all the time what it takes to make a relationship work that long, but I don't think there is one easy answer to that. For me, there has been one thing that I pinpointed from a young age that seemed missing in relationships gone bad. I shared this with my husband, Jeff, in the very early stages of our relationship. "Do not take me for granted."
Whenever anything is taken for granted, there is the presumption that it will always be there. After all, marriage is until death do us part, right? But once a spouse is taken for granted, anything and everything else becomes the priority. Then, resentment inevitably will follow. Resentment is an ugly thing that spirals off into any number of uglier outcomes and totally erodes the relationship. If we want to hold onto anything forever, we have to take care of it...nurture it...cherish it. In my opinion, that is the most important thing we can do for our significant other. Do not take them for granted. Some simple ways to keep this in check are:
As for my husband, he would tell you that all it takes is two other simple words. He actually wrote this on a post-it and stuck it on his computer. It simply reads, 'Yes Dear'. I have to admit, that helps too. But then, he is a pretty smart guy.
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Terri Burnett
1/14/2016 07:12:48 am
Very well said and very true. Love this blog!!!
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Jackie Rodeffer-Scheetz
1/14/2016 10:37:56 pm
Thank-you Terri! :)
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